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chowmein69 · Oct 23, 2007, 03:35 AM // 03:35

Ive met a few friends from pugging with them and doing missions together , and then we bcame good friends :P or you can join up with pl in PUGS section , ive met friends there also bby doing vanquishes / missions

eeks · Oct 23, 2007, 03:47 AM // 03:47

If I were to make a suggestion, Shing Jea Monastery, Temple of Balthazar, Lion's Arch and (if you can get past the spam), Kamadan are good places to socialise. Predominately SJM.

Seriously, SJM is like highschool as I recall it. Cliques here and there. ._O

It may seem difficult to find dome decent people, yet if you sift through them you can find them. :P

Of course, you could try getting along with the people in your Guild, yet it's easier when the members aren't hardcore players, and the guild tends to be laidback.

Rolland · Oct 23, 2007, 03:58 AM // 03:58

Some games are easier than others, at least for me. I met a ton of great people in Vanguard, and even in a brief stint in EQ...some communities are just more "open", honest and mature it seems.

I've just recently jumped back into GW, but I can tell you this, I avoid "LOCAL" chat like the plague lol

All I ever see is people talking crap and being crude and talking about sex stuff all the damn time, I mean it's like I'm thrown back into Middle School gym class???

So, yea...I'm with ya OP, it's hard as hell to meet people in this game. I never beg for items/gold and despise any that do. I try and take care of my Quests and Missions on my own. I can concentrate on the game more that way anyway

Though I do have to admit it would be nice to be able to have a friendly chat from time to time, with decent and somewhat mature, intelligent players heh

The mature thing is really not the issue, as I like to play around and goof off like any one. It's the perpetual crass, crude, rude and idiotic that gets to me..

Every now and then though I get a whisper from someone just saying hello or saying they like my name, which is nice...so it's not "all" bad. I just feel more comfortable staying out of the pool so to speak heh

Regards2All

MMSDome · Oct 23, 2007, 04:01 AM // 04:01

the key is not to actually try. Just by grouping with people and maybe just talking to people in town is how you can makes friends online. Way I did was when I first started I came in with other e-friends from playing MOHAA when the game first launched and just met people from then on. I wouldnt be playing with many of the people I play with right now if it hadnt been for a random fow run back in 2005. Just play the game, youll meet people.

arsie · Oct 23, 2007, 04:03 AM // 04:03

I have been wondering why this game's social systems is poorer than many other MMO.

The fact that we can map travel to anywhere in every campaign, within about 3 hops, should mean that we can be with our friends whenever they need us.

However, this is countered by the fact that everything is instanced, which means, more often than not, people are in an instance halfway through something.

For other games, there are plenty of reasons to hang out in towns. To resupply, and manage one's little business in the auction houses. There are also less towns, usually. But that's the equivalent of Kaineng Centre, Kamadan, Lion's Arch, Droknar's Forge, Ascalon City and Sunspear Sanctuary type capitols.

I think part of it is the legacy of trade spamming in outposts. Everyone just has a bad feeling about All chat, even though it is largely solved now. There is usually juvenile chatter in some outposts, and people asking for help in others.

Compare GW to other games, where people stand around waiting for ships, or get demoralised by the long bird flight, that they decide to just hang out in towns to chit chat, cos they can only log on for 15-30min that day.

If players have 15mins to spare, they can dive straight into a single primary quest, or AB/RA. Paradoxically, not wasting time is bad for social stuff.

Another thing is the lack of grinding. For many other games, players are stuck at certain points in the game grinding mobs for exp or quest drops. They see each other there every day, and know make a Friends list of people of their same level. They can continue to keep in contact, and compete with each other with their achievements.

GW has almost no grinding, once you're done with a mission or quest, most PuGs go their seperate ways. The next time you see a Friend online, he's on another character halfway across the continent and doing a vastly different thing from what you want to do.

So perhaps the great parts about GW: no time wasting, low grinding, fully instanced, no resupply needs, all contribute to GW being less social than other games.

Yes, most other people playing MMO are paying $15 a month to sit around town and chit chat. We're just doing the complete opposite.

mojave mango juice · Oct 23, 2007, 04:45 AM // 04:45

I could probably group my ingame friends into four groups:

1. Real-life friends
2. People I found in pugs
3. Guildies/Allies
4. People I met on here/other forums.

Just be friendly and you're bound to meet people. And if you ever want to chat, my username is my IGN

garethporlest18 · Oct 23, 2007, 05:02 AM // 05:02

I'd be your friend if I played much anymore.

But as for making them, I had slight e-friends from guilds and such (deeper than that at certain points but I'm not getting into all that), but I really started making friends when I went to Grotto. I've made quite a few good friends from there actually, just by sitting there talking whenever I'd get bored with GW. I also made a couple friends from PUGs (back in 05 though haha). So overall it's pretty easy for me.

But yah if you want a friend, I'm there whenever I'm on.

prism2525 · Oct 23, 2007, 05:02 AM // 05:02

My e-friends are usually ex-guild members, guild members, and some random ppl i find about

Not forgetting irl friends too. My irl italian friend introduced me to the guild and now we get along perfectly

EDIT: as gareth said, I'll gladly be your friend (when I log that is, as I'm not that regular atm). As long as you're not a complete a$$ho|e we'll get along just great (don't worry, I understand you're new and perhaps ask basic questions

. Heck, I myself didn't know you could change professions as much as you liked until I was tired of playing the desert... XD)

Batou of Nine · Oct 23, 2007, 05:03 AM // 05:03

Quote:

Originally Posted by mojave mango juice

I could probably group my ingame friends into four groups:

1. Real-life friends
2. People I found in pugs
3. Guildies/Allies
4. People I met on here/other forums.

Just be friendly and you're bound to meet people. And if you ever want to chat, my username is my IGN

"QFT!" <--- yay for redundancy!

heh, but seriously thats about how it goes... Get your RL friends in the game, get lucky and meet a friendly pug player, build relationships in a guild that your see yourself staying in for a long while, or outside the game GW communities...

Personally, every single one of my in game friends are people i met WAY back when GW first started. My whole friend list consists of more mature players 20+ up to 40+ players, as well as our old old guild that has existed since day one of GW. Some were people i became great friends through similar in game interests that started with establishing a long lasting, mature guild...

Others i have actually met through my pugging days (sadly i cannot stand to PUG anymore). My best closest GW friends ironically came from pugging too. One i met when i randomly grouped with a fellow mesmer in pre-searing, she is very friendly and we enjoy just chatting not always game focused. Another i met when i invited a pug to our guild who i was impressed with their game skill, and we became good friends from there...

Of course both those relationships built like RL relationships build, it just takes time. We consistently talked (even small talk counts!) and grouped together in game and from those times spent together become friends...

I am happy to say about 75% of my friend list has stayed consistent through my 2+ years of playing GW, which is also about 50% of the reason why i even play GW anymore!

So just be patient, be friendly, enjoy playing the game, and don't fret, because by the way you seem, i am sure you will pick up tons of friends in no time! hehe, and if you need a headstart, my IGN is my forum name to the left there if you wanna chat...

cheers!

Sir Green Aluminum · Oct 23, 2007, 05:09 AM // 05:09

Maybe you're looking in the wrong places. Try D1 of Great Temple of Balthazar, Random Arenas, Eye of the North, any cap city except Gunar's and pre-searing. Though you might find people who want to just cyber, rp or dance/do weird stuff in the first two. I say it's just the lack of persistance areas that makes this a friendless gaem.

Sakura Az · Oct 23, 2007, 05:16 AM // 05:16

i got a ton of people on my freinds list, i only talk to 2 of them anymore.. most of the time the rest of them have moved on or never respond to me.

you can always message me in game, ign Sakura Mitsugi, all i've been doing recently is AB because i'm bored, i need to beat factions somday as well^^ for being an assassin i have totaly abandonded my home continent.

Dimitri_Stucoff · Oct 23, 2007, 05:32 AM // 05:32

I met most my friends pugging or through old guilds I used to be in but left for some reason or another (like them disbanning). The thing to remember about this game is being nice does not usually win you friends. I learned that from running missions and having a heart from time to time. If your nice to people they are just going to rip your heart out and try to take advantage of your good will in general. Most the people on my list are those from pugs that actually were decent when I was farming areas that cant be done with anything but real people. We tend to have the same interests. The thing to do is give your friends stuff after they are your friend, not before.. otherwise they will just take advantage of you... anyway that is my two cents.

Esan · Oct 23, 2007, 05:52 AM // 05:52

Are you playing the game for the game or for the social interaction? If the former, you have months of enjoyment to look forward to. If the latter, you might as well quit now.

the_jos · Oct 23, 2007, 05:59 AM // 05:59

Most friends I met are from PUGs.
It's even how I found my current guild.

I hardly ever put people from PUGs on my friend list these days.
Most new 'friends' are friends of guildies that I know are good and have the same goals and mindset, but are happy in their own guild.

Also, as Dimitri said, make sure people don't take advantage of you.
That's not only with stuff, but also helping out.
I've seen people that I helped once and suddenly needed help with the lvl1 they just started...

arsie · Oct 23, 2007, 06:12 AM // 06:12

I think Goddess Elaine is at least getting more successful first contact from this thread than her in-game time. I'll chip in with another ign, then.

I usually play between 11am to 2pm EST on weekdays. Yeah I know, horrible time for any sort of social play.

wu is me · Oct 23, 2007, 07:00 AM // 07:00

I think I've made quite a few friends on the way up Heroes Ascent. Its the right sort of environment, because vent is the norm, and if you play well people will be inclined to friend list you and ask you to come back ^^-of course you meet the occasional snob.. but u shouldn't be discouraged.

I'd like to think i've made a few friends in a new guild i joined up to while Ascending, and they have a friend in me too =]

baz777 · Oct 23, 2007, 07:12 AM // 07:12

I've been with the same guild for over 2 years and have a number of 'e-friends' which have also been with the guild a long time.

I suggest you find a friendly active guild and just join in.

Hyper.nl · Oct 23, 2007, 07:12 AM // 07:12

Knowing people from real-life really helps here. Maybe you can invite a real-life friend to play Guild Wars and join your guild.

Players in a PuG generally are mostly interested in completing a mission.

Surena · Oct 23, 2007, 07:16 AM // 07:16

Quote:

Originally Posted by Goddess Elaine

Well, I kinda tried to make some friends in my guild & alliance by doing nice things such
as helping them getting a mini pet and did all the work ( Requesting codes
for each people who have trouble getting it )...

They say thank you after getting it, but I never heard from them ever since.
O_o...

Well, getting free stuff should be a privilege, otherwise there's always a high chance that people are just friendly to leech off you or get accustomed to it thus making any interaction or "bond" dependant on material things. It's sad but that's how so many people are. A saying goes (mind my English) that "you're always closer to yourself than to others".
I always have something to give away but I choose whom to give it to and for what reason. Other than that I didn't make that many friends either. :>

Good luck to you

Goddess Elaine · Oct 23, 2007, 07:16 AM // 07:16

None of my guy-friends in real life play this game